I’m Robert the recovery guy
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Recovery Guy Podcast
As a seasoned and energetic motivational speaker Robert’s uplifting view of the recovered life will encourage you. His topics cover a wide variety of perspectives and resources to help build a better you.
Episode #28 – Thursday The Checkup: Stagnation
How to avoid STAGNATION in your recovery.
Stagnation is defined as the state of being still, or not moving, like a sitting puddle of water where stagnation attracts mosquitoes.
The root of stagnation is the Latin word for “standing water,” stagnatum.
Stagnation refers to the failure to find a way to contribute. These individuals may feel disconnected or uninvolved with their community and society.
A rut is often a result of stagnation and is a habit or pattern of behavior that has become dull and unproductive and it is often hard to change.
In recovery over addiction and other behavioral challenges, stagnation can be very precarious.
Most all of us, at one time or another, hit a snag or get slowed down. This is often a temporary event and we get moving again rather quickly.
Stagnation in personal recovery can get dangerous because it can cause emotional pain and mental frustration. When we experience this type of pain/frustration it can lead to a spiral and a subsequent relapse.
How do we get out of the Rut or reverse the stagnation?
1. Decide we don’t want to be there anymore
2. We need to take our own inventory in the 4 dimensions consisting physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. If you find it is more than one dimension focus on the one that will likely influence the other.
3. It is often very helpful to bring in a trusted person who can help you stay objective
4. Put together a course of action
5. Follow said course
6. Monitor progress while adjusting as you move forward
When we implement these notions and activate the steps we will have the results we work for.
Episode #27 – The Monday Fix: Recovery Paradigm
Today’s podcast is on paradigms. I was first introduced to this term back in 1993. I was seven years into my personal recovery and was looking for a way to grow beyond the material I was currently involved with. That material was working; it was just I wanted more. I knew there was more out there for me to go get it, I just didn’t know what it looked like or how to find it. A friend of mine had introduced me to Stephen Covey. Stephen had just produced “principle centered leader ship”. It was the first time I had heard about a paradigm. Interestingly enough it was exactly where I wanted to be and what I wanted to understand. I was looking for a new way of thinking. This is what this podcast is all about. In this podcast, I laid the groundwork for next week’s podcast. I asked some questions, I introduce the listeners to terminology and I challenge us to come back with our own answers. Quite simply a paradigm is a standard or a set of ideas a paradigm is simply a way of looking at something the word as I am reading the definition from vocabulary.com it’s that it comes up a lot in academic scientific and business world we’re going to look at it from a psychological, behavior and internal position. I like what Mr. Covey says in that a paradigm is a “mental map”. Like any directions they are best accompanied by a map. The more defined and accurate the map the more likely I am to get from point A to point B. In this podcast, I asked the questions, what is a paradigm, list some practical examples of paradigms, how they affect us negatively and positively, identifying erroneous paradigms, removing/display paradigms that aren’t consistent with our direction, commitment or environment and finally how to adopt new positive paradigms that are in alignment with our direction/commitment/environment. Once we address these we will then have a fuller understanding of Why we are at where we are at with our present thinking, if it’s not where we want to be, then what paradigm change do I need to make to get there. I hope you enjoy the podcast. I hope you have a wonderful day.
Becoming Well Now is Now Recovery Guy
Becoming Well NowWe are proud to announce the merging of Becoming Well Now and Recovery GuyWhy? Becoming Well Now has always focused on creating content with the goal of helping people get and stay sober. Recovery Guy was used as a platform to connect groups of people...
Episode #26 – Special Q&A: Slow Will Part 1
From deep inside the Recovery guy vault.
Episode #25 – Thursday The Checkup: Step by Step
Today we cover a tried and true method of ensuring that the check up is thorough.
Episode #24 – Monday The Fix: Gratitude
Gratitude is the fuel that helps determine the course of my life.
Episode #23 – Special Live Series: Hemet
The key to teamwork is putting the WE before ME.
Episode #22 – Thursday The Checkup “Suzy says”
Making sure our entire home is in order when it comes to others.
Episode #21 – Monday The Fix
A universal approach to becoming the best possible version of self.
Episode #20 – Introduction to Recovery
Recovery is a life long process. Recovery is not a destination, recovery is a journey.
What Is Life Coaching?
Who is Coaching For?
It is my opinion that the one looking to be coached must be so convinced that their current situation is so injurious that if they don’t change their life would be irreparably harmed or they will die. Now that might seem drastic to some, but is it really? If you’re in a position where you would consider a coach, you would likely conclude that doing it by yourself with the methods that you’ve been trying are not effective and would be counterproductive to continue in that direction.
Life is meant to be enjoyed and cherished
There is nothing more discouraging than waking up each day dreading what the day holds. If that is you, when will you stop allowing the day to dictate that to you. Own the day from the outset and be the master of your own outcome.
We have been created to be a light to others
Stop allowing the external pressures to hold back your internal desire to grow and develop.
Create a legacy of happiness by living that legacy now.
Increase your value to others as you increase your value to you.
About Me
Recovery Guy was born out my own personal recovery. I had become a chronic alcoholic. I began choosing alcohol and drugs on a daily basis when I turned 18. I was so deeply trapped I also became a compulsive gambler, overeater, bulimic, and I was also addicted to pornography. I entered treatment in February 1986. After one brief relapse, I have been clean and sober since April 25, 1986. Along the way the overeating, bulimia, gambling and pornography have left my life. I have learned so much over the years. I went back to college at 39 years old to get my degree in Alcohol/Drugs Studies. I have worked in various treatment models. Along the way I became well. I went “From Broken To Whole.” It is my belief that everyone has this potential. I went from a feeling that if something didn’t change I was going to die to a person of accomplishment. I would love the opportunity to guide you as I was guided. I took advantage of the help offered to me. I have combined that information in proven ways to assist you. Thank you for your time.
Testimonials
“Robert’s content is outstanding. It’s not merely about addiction, but life in general. His recent podcast gave me food for thought. I will be thinking about the “inside-out” scenario for a long time” Jan T.
“Recovery Guy has been part of my recovery for almost 3 years now. I appreciate Robert’s perspective on recovery and how to extract the most out of every day. He has encouraged me to take on daily challenges aggressively and have more major victories”. Angie
“I got to know Robert when we were looking for a speaker for an AA meeting. Since then I have relied on his elevated approach to seeing life, I have decided that I want to pursue and grow the way he has. I want to have his degree of recovery in my life. Robert has been a wonderful influence in my life”. Chaz M
Find Your Balance. Set Your Goals. Take A Challenge. Reward Yourself.
Understand that a life coach teaches you how to live productively one day at a time. We learn to overcome obstacles and other challenges that would have previously taken you off course and caused to slip back into previous behavior. A coach helps a person of addiction understand that true sobriety is more than the absence of the substance. Being sober is the beginning of sobriety, not sobriety itself. Whether it is overcoming a behavior that is not addiction related or behavior that is associated with alcohol or drugs the goal is the same. One must learn how to live a different way and because of enjoying that lifestyle the person would no longer want to engage in that negative behavior. It really is as simple as that. A coach is nothing more and nothing less than a conduit/guide for new way of living.