I’m Robert the recovery guy
Personal Life & Career Coach
Recovery one day at a time with Robert
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Recovery Guy Podcast
As a seasoned and energetic motivational speaker Robert’s uplifting view of the recovered life will encourage you. His topics cover a wide variety of perspectives and resources to help build a better you.
Episode #109 – Tuesday The Fix: Getting Smashed
When we do these things, we stand a very good chance the delusion will stay SMASHED. If the psychotic notion of being successful with our negative behavior stays crushed, we will be able to live the life that the addictive lifestyle kept us from.
Episode #108 – Friday The Checkup: Relating In Recovery
How vital is relating in recovery? It has been the experience of countless others and myself that our quality and even quantity of our recovery stands in the balance of how and to whom we relate in recovery.
The Disease of Denial
Denial is a characteristic distortion in thinking experienced by people with alcoholism. For decades, people who treat alcoholics, and recovering alcoholics themselves, have puzzled over why alcoholics continue to drink when the link between alcohol and the losses they suffer is so clear. Denial is an integral part of the disease of alcoholism and a major obstacle to recovery.
Meditation Is Like Breathing
As vital as meditation is, it is not, unfortunately, involutary. There is no involutary characterist to it. There is no fire alarm – spiritaul or otherwise – that automatically kicks in when we need it. Meditation only occurs when I decide to meditate. In a way, I wish I was forced to meditate. If I were then I could have averted countless bad decisions and many negative outcomes.
Episode #107 – Tuesday The Fix: Wounded No More
When it comes to being Wounded No More, I am not saying that we will never be wounded again. That would like saying we cease being human. What I am saying that the wounded feeling does not have to last.
Episode #106 – Friday The Checkup Signs I Might Need Help
Staying healthy is best promoted by continuing to self-examine. We make adjustments and corrections along the way… (but) If this continues unchecked the likelihood of relapse is inevitable.
Aligned for the Ride
When I consider personal alignment, I must consider the four dimensions of my life. As a person, I am made up of physical, emotional, mental and the spiritual. As I have four tires on my vehicle I have four areas of life that need attention. Not having all four tires aligned simultaneously causes uneven wear are on the other tires.
What’s Trust Got to Do with It
Trust is a foundational requirement for every healthy relationship. Without trust, there is no basis for caring. It is near impossible to have reciprocal care for a person where trust isn’t an essential part of the relationship. The quote “This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man” is a line from Hamlet by William Shakespeare and it connects self-truth as a necessary component of being truthful to others.
Episode #105 – Tuesday The Fix: Sabotage of Self Part 2
These feelings serve as important clues about our wellbeing and about what makes us happy and unhappy.
Episode #104 – Friday The Checkup: How We Heal
For today’s podcast, I am using some thoughts and practices by my dear friend Suzy. Suzy and I met through IG surrounding a family challenge she was having with someone in her life. The opportunity with this person didn’t prove productive at the time, but out of it...
What Is Life Coaching?
Who is Coaching For?
It is my opinion that the one looking to be coached must be so convinced that their current situation is so injurious that if they don’t change their life would be irreparably harmed or they will die. Now that might seem drastic to some, but is it really? If you’re in a position where you would consider a coach, you would likely conclude that doing it by yourself with the methods that you’ve been trying are not effective and would be counterproductive to continue in that direction.
Life is meant to be enjoyed and cherished
There is nothing more discouraging than waking up each day dreading what the day holds. If that is you, when will you stop allowing the day to dictate that to you. Own the day from the outset and be the master of your own outcome.
We have been created to be a light to others
Stop allowing the external pressures to hold back your internal desire to grow and develop.
Create a legacy of happiness by living that legacy now.
Increase your value to others as you increase your value to you.
About Me
Recovery Guy was born out my own personal recovery. I had become a chronic alcoholic. I began choosing alcohol and drugs on a daily basis when I turned 18. I was so deeply trapped I also became a compulsive gambler, overeater, bulimic, and I was also addicted to pornography. I entered treatment in February 1986. After one brief relapse, I have been clean and sober since April 25, 1986. Along the way the overeating, bulimia, gambling and pornography have left my life. I have learned so much over the years. I went back to college at 39 years old to get my degree in Alcohol/Drugs Studies. I have worked in various treatment models. Along the way I became well. I went “From Broken To Whole.” It is my belief that everyone has this potential. I went from a feeling that if something didn’t change I was going to die to a person of accomplishment. I would love the opportunity to guide you as I was guided. I took advantage of the help offered to me. I have combined that information in proven ways to assist you. Thank you for your time.
Testimonials
“Robert’s content is outstanding. It’s not merely about addiction, but life in general. His recent podcast gave me food for thought. I will be thinking about the “inside-out” scenario for a long time” Jan T.
“Recovery Guy has been part of my recovery for almost 3 years now. I appreciate Robert’s perspective on recovery and how to extract the most out of every day. He has encouraged me to take on daily challenges aggressively and have more major victories”. Angie
“I got to know Robert when we were looking for a speaker for an AA meeting. Since then I have relied on his elevated approach to seeing life, I have decided that I want to pursue and grow the way he has. I want to have his degree of recovery in my life. Robert has been a wonderful influence in my life”. Chaz M
Find Your Balance. Set Your Goals. Take A Challenge. Reward Yourself.
Understand that a life coach teaches you how to live productively one day at a time. We learn to overcome obstacles and other challenges that would have previously taken you off course and caused to slip back into previous behavior. A coach helps a person of addiction understand that true sobriety is more than the absence of the substance. Being sober is the beginning of sobriety, not sobriety itself. Whether it is overcoming a behavior that is not addiction related or behavior that is associated with alcohol or drugs the goal is the same. One must learn how to live a different way and because of enjoying that lifestyle the person would no longer want to engage in that negative behavior. It really is as simple as that. A coach is nothing more and nothing less than a conduit/guide for new way of living.