I’m Robert the recovery guy
Personal Life & Career Coach
Recovery one day at a time with Robert
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As a seasoned and energetic motivational speaker Robert’s uplifting view of the recovered life will encourage you. His topics cover a wide variety of perspectives and resources to help build a better you.
Why H.O.W. Now and not Later?
The reason so many of us put off starting later and not now is because of fear. In this particular blog the “HOW” stands for honesty, open- mindedness, and willingness. We find it near impossible to be any of these three things let alone being them simultaneously. If I am honest I have to admit that I have a problem. That goes 100% counter to protecting the supply because that supply is my medication of which I need to get through life.
Hall of Mirrors
While living in that hall of mirrors, I didn’t see myself clearly. I couldn’t view my assets or character flaws in a manner that could serve me. Instead, I was so busy looking at someone else’s character flaws that I couldn’t make an honest assessment of my role in the unmanageability of my own life. Step 4 says we “made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”
Episode #193 -Tuesday The Fix – Traditions Are The Glue
Traditions are the handing down of statements, beliefs, legends, customs, information. These travel from generation to generation, especially by word of mouth or by practice. They are also long-established or inherited way of thinking or acting.
Episode #192 – Friday The Checkup: Fear vs. Faith
“Above all take it one day at a time.” – Bill W. page 11 of How It Works
Dreams that Require Action
One of the other things that are so important to ascertain is whether or not it is morally right and fair to everyone. I also need to know if it is consistent with my other goals. That should be obvious. I want to also understand if I reach all the objectives of the dream will my life be improved.
Absolutes
Today, I embrace words such as never, must, always, and every.
Episode #191 -Tuesday The Fix – Principals to Live By
When we speak of Principals, we speak of things that come first or are the highest in rank. These are words associated with a high degree of importance and value. They are considered to be foremost in our life. Each of the Twelve Steps have Principals assigned to them.
Episode #190 – Friday The Checkup: A Firm Foundation
One of the most wonderful things about what I do as a person committed to personal recovery is working with others along the way. One of the most important things I convey to everyone is the importance of a firm foundation. If one is to build anything a foundation is required. It has been said “If the foundations are destroyed what can one do.” I’ve also heard “a house divided against itself cannot stand.“ So not only does the foundation need to be firm but an indicator of its firmness is it singleness of purpose. To paraphrase the Gandhi, Life is an indivisible whole and it must lack internal conflict.
Self Esteem
Mark twain said, “a man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” This quote is so important to understand. Self-esteem is the necessary component Two most all accomplishment. They desire that fuels a person to do the best job possible is foundational to success. How I feel about me will often determine the job that I do in the subsequent outcome. Going back to the quote by Mark Twain it is necessary that I approve of me.
Accountability
Through accountability from a wellness standpoint means that I am an open book to you. This does not mean that every relationship in our life is based on our accountability. Most of my relationships have superficial accountability that apply to one area or another. As the relationship becomes more meaningful and has a different impact on me in love or caring or sharing intimacy, accountability his defined much differently. I love the simplicity of the word accountable.
What Is Life Coaching?
Who is Coaching For?
It is my opinion that the one looking to be coached must be so convinced that their current situation is so injurious that if they don’t change their life would be irreparably harmed or they will die. Now that might seem drastic to some, but is it really? If you’re in a position where you would consider a coach, you would likely conclude that doing it by yourself with the methods that you’ve been trying are not effective and would be counterproductive to continue in that direction.
Life is meant to be enjoyed and cherished
There is nothing more discouraging than waking up each day dreading what the day holds. If that is you, when will you stop allowing the day to dictate that to you. Own the day from the outset and be the master of your own outcome.
We have been created to be a light to others
Stop allowing the external pressures to hold back your internal desire to grow and develop.
Create a legacy of happiness by living that legacy now.
Increase your value to others as you increase your value to you.
About Me
Recovery Guy was born out my own personal recovery. I had become a chronic alcoholic. I began choosing alcohol and drugs on a daily basis when I turned 18. I was so deeply trapped I also became a compulsive gambler, overeater, bulimic, and I was also addicted to pornography. I entered treatment in February 1986. After one brief relapse, I have been clean and sober since April 25, 1986. Along the way the overeating, bulimia, gambling and pornography have left my life. I have learned so much over the years. I went back to college at 39 years old to get my degree in Alcohol/Drugs Studies. I have worked in various treatment models. Along the way I became well. I went “From Broken To Whole.” It is my belief that everyone has this potential. I went from a feeling that if something didn’t change I was going to die to a person of accomplishment. I would love the opportunity to guide you as I was guided. I took advantage of the help offered to me. I have combined that information in proven ways to assist you. Thank you for your time.
Testimonials
“Robert’s content is outstanding. It’s not merely about addiction, but life in general. His recent podcast gave me food for thought. I will be thinking about the “inside-out” scenario for a long time” Jan T.
“Recovery Guy has been part of my recovery for almost 3 years now. I appreciate Robert’s perspective on recovery and how to extract the most out of every day. He has encouraged me to take on daily challenges aggressively and have more major victories”. Angie
“I got to know Robert when we were looking for a speaker for an AA meeting. Since then I have relied on his elevated approach to seeing life, I have decided that I want to pursue and grow the way he has. I want to have his degree of recovery in my life. Robert has been a wonderful influence in my life”. Chaz M
Find Your Balance. Set Your Goals. Take A Challenge. Reward Yourself.
Understand that a life coach teaches you how to live productively one day at a time. We learn to overcome obstacles and other challenges that would have previously taken you off course and caused to slip back into previous behavior. A coach helps a person of addiction understand that true sobriety is more than the absence of the substance. Being sober is the beginning of sobriety, not sobriety itself. Whether it is overcoming a behavior that is not addiction related or behavior that is associated with alcohol or drugs the goal is the same. One must learn how to live a different way and because of enjoying that lifestyle the person would no longer want to engage in that negative behavior. It really is as simple as that. A coach is nothing more and nothing less than a conduit/guide for new way of living.