Reconciliation is One of the biggest challenges that most everyone faces in recovery. Reconciliation is a constant in our recovery journey. It is first necessary when it comes to recognizing our past. We must completely understand where we came from before we can see what needs to be done to change. Without this step we will never come to terms with who we were, which means we will not likely become who we desire to be. As painful as it may be, we must make a consistent and concerted effort to reconcile ourselves to our past. one of the definitions One of the definitions assigned to the word is to come to an agreement or amicable truce. Once we have come to this truce and ceased fighting where we came from, we can then take full responsibility for it. Without this responsibility for a past we will never be willing to do the work to change from that person to the new person we need to become.
Fortunately, baked into the cake a personal recovery is reconciliation. I know I am using this word throughout this content, but I cannot underestimate its importance in personal recovery. Once I have reconciled myself to my past, I can then come into agreement with who it is possible for me to become. Who I can become takes a great deal of work. Without this work, I will fall short of the achievable goal of personal recovery. Throughout most all recovery approaches the need to recognize Who I became is foundational important to me becoming a new person.
One of the aspects of reconciling is defined as when a former enemy comes to terms or that agreed-upon truce. Within this truce, we can “cease finding everything and everyone.” If I am in rebellion to anything that I was, what I need to learn or what I can become, I will be hindered. I also like the definition of this word because it calls it “a process.” A dear friend of mine once said, “if it were easy, everyone would be doing it.”
No one likes to come to terms with who they were, let alone do the work of what it takes to become something greater. I need to be willing to set all things aside and admit whatever I need to admit to become what I say and hope to become. If I can accomplish this, then I will fully embrace reconciliation as part of my processto becoming well.
Robert Pardon
Robert is the Recovery Guy. Getting clean and sober on April 25, 1986 has given me the insight and practical skill set to not only stay sober, but to also re-invent myself to the person I always wanted to become. Showing others how to do this is my life goal.
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