For me, the opposite of being a victim was ownership. Once I decided my pain was more than I could bear and no one was going to come to save me, my only option was personal ownership. The challenge was, how does someone who spent their life as a victim take ownership? The answer is very simple, yet it had alluded me for so long.
There’s nothing worse than being trapped and knowing you are trapped. What makes it even worse, is knowing that you are trapped and it is likely you will die a trapped person. That is addiction. Addiction is a trap and can appear inescapable.
Whether they be natural or self-induced, stressors can be like trying to body surf in a riptide. If we don’t get out, we could drown.
When I was introduced to these points, it was in personal development. I will list a few of the points that I think are relevant to the quality that I find necessary to incorporate into our lives. We can then improve the areas that we are looking to improve.
When I first came to recovery I was told that I only had to change ONE thing. Not too bad, right. ONE thing. Who can’t change ONE thing? So, I asked what that ONE thing was and they told me that ONE thing was EVERYTHING!