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As a seasoned and energetic motivational speaker Robert’s uplifting view of the recovered life will encourage you. His topics cover a wide variety of perspectives and resources to help build a better you.
Episode #38 – Thursday The Checkup: Social Media Recovery and Accountability.
Social Media Recovery and Accountability.
This episode raises and addresses my concerns over using Social Media as the foundation of recovery, rather then a supplement.
The biggest concern I have is that using social media as a primary platform can leave one without much or any accountability.
One of the greatest advantages a person of recovery (especially new or relatively new) is to relay on a person(s) that they can have a face-to-face conversation with and have a higher degree of accountability.
When there is little to no accountability, such as social media, the person then can more easily rely on the thinking that got them in the condition they are in and reject anything that would cause them to challenge their thinking.
I lay out a couple very good resources from Recovery.org and also soberlink.com. Please check out these resources and come to your own conclusion.
Thank you for joining me on the Recovery Guy podcast
Episode #37 – Monday The Fix: Look to this day
Look to this day
Today’s podcast is entitled “Look To This Day”. I read an IG post that said “When you feel like quitting think about why you started”. This is a great topic. Who hasn’t questioned themselves? Who hasn’t wondered if they could do it or if there was worthwhile payoff they thought was waiting for them?
It is so important to understand why we started in the first place and the value of each day that we live. How each day can have its own power that we can be fuel us.
I present, breakdown and explore the Sanskrit Poem that so embodies the reasons why TODAY has such value. This poem points out all today can bring us. It explores and points out how today brings a sweet memory of yesterday and can be the reason we look forward to tomorrow.
I hope you enjoy this podcast as much as I did recording it. Please visit my website at recoveryguy.org and use any of the video segments and information that is there for you. All of my content is free.
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Episode #36 – Thursday The Checkup: Freedom and Healing go hand in hand
Freedom and Healing go hand in hand.
This Recovery Guy podcast is for everyone, regardless of your background. Everyone, at one time in their life or another (even for those of us who are well) need to examine our freedom and how we are healing. There is a direct connection between being healed and personal freedom. In this podcast I explore the four dimensions of life and their connection to freedom and healing. The 4 dimensions of life are as follows; the physical, mental, the emotional and spiritual. Thank you for tuning in and don’t forget to comment, subscribe, and of course share.
Episode #35 – Monday The Fix: Recovery with a Purpose
Thank you for joining the Recovery Guy Podcast. This is Monday and it is The Fix.
Recovery helps create a degree of security and even increase it along the way. As our sense of purpose is revealed and implemented It increases our feeling of security.
Prior to our Recovery we did not feel we had any purpose with any redeeming value. Consequently we were very insecure in most all manners of life.
The quality and quantity of our purpose will either grow or dissipate our level of security. Where we feel we have little to no purpose we are very insecure.
Where we feel we have great purpose our security increases. I hope you enjoy this podcast and that you would not only listen, you would comment, subscribe, and share the episode.
We are on all of the major podcast channels and we look forward to hearing from you.
Episode #34 – Thursday The Checkup: Promises During the Process of Recovery
Promises During the Process of Recovery
Thanks for joining Recovery Guy Podcast for Thursday’s The Check Up. You can find my podcast episodes on all major channels. This podcast focuses on the process and price of recovery that results in promises that are worth all the effort we exert. At times the road seems too challenging, but then one or two positive things occur and begin to see the fruits of our effort.
Recovery, in many ways, is like everything else in life. When we put together a continuous recommended effort, over time, we can expect positive results. One major difference is that in recovery we are most often overpaid.
I love to reference the Promises as referenced in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. These promises have been coming through for people of recovery even before they were written. Writing them was just a way to label what we could expect. I love how bold the author is when he states “They will ALWAYS material if we work for them”.
This has been true in my journey of sobriety, as well as countless others I have known. This can be true for you as well. Won’t you join us in this journey? Why suffer any longer when the promise of a new amazing life awaits you.
Please listen, comment, subscribe and share. We want to hear from you. All you have to lose is your misery and all you have to gain is everything.
Episode #33 – Monday The Fix: Recovery and the Power of Choosing
Can We Chose
Thanks for tuning into this podcast. As we all know, our addicted life left us without any choice. We had become internally convinced that we no longer had any power. Once we came to that realization, our addiction went deeper and deeper. Many of those like us would eventually die as a direct result of our alcohol and drug consumption.
As we entered sobriety and began (little by little) to see through the lens of recovery we began taking things back. We learned to let go of the things that held us hostage and began to choose things that gave us freedom.
In this episode, I explore the ways we can choose and the power we must do so. I utilize the writings of Bill Wilson and his excerpts from As Bill Sees It as my primary source of reference. This book contains such great truths and it is in a topical format. Finding specific information is made easy. You can find this book at https://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/aa-literature/b-5-as-bill-sees-it or you can pick one up on Amazon or at your local Alano Club.
“Can We Choose”, you bet we can! The longer we live out our sober life, according to the Plan of Recovery, we make better choices. I love being able to choose, instead of having life choices made for me, don’t you?
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Episode #32 – Special Q & A: Slow Will Part 3
Finishing the special 3 part series with slow will.
Episode #31 – Thursday The Checkup: Recovery and the Power of Positive Self-Talk
Recovery Guy and Positive Self-Talk
Thanks for joining us for The Check Up. Today we are going to discuss the importance of positive self-talk, as it relates to recovery. My dear friend Wendy gave me the idea for today’s show. Wendy has 2 ½ years of recovery and I appreciate how she can help me remember what it was like as a newcomer.
We come from a place of such negativity and bad experiences, before recovery. Obviously, most of the negativity and bad experiences were of our own making. Nevertheless, we carry so much of the negative emotion and baggage into recovery. We might be getting physically sober and clean, but so much our life can still be filled with a poor self-image.
So much of this comes out as we, in recovery, can remain our own worst enemy. The thoughts of all the people we harmed and things that we did can haunt us well into or recovery. Shaking that negativity perspective can often be as difficult as getting sober, and at times more difficult.
Most all relapses occur because of our inability to let go of yesterday and focus on today. One of the biggest challenges to letting go of the past is how we refer to ourselves. Recalling and even reinforcing past views of ourselves is based upon behavior and choices that are no longer part of our life.
Until we recognize we aren’t the same person and begin referring to ourselves as such we stand very little chance of enjoying this new life we have chosen. We must remember that the person we referred to in such negative thoughts is no longer alive. The sober version of us has emerged and taken its place.
Learning how to recognize the amazing accomplishment we are undertaking in the first step seeing us for who we are not who we were. Once we begin seeing the new man/woman we can then begin referring to ourselves as a person of accomplishment. We can then see ourselves as the person we always wanted to be without the substances.
We begin living in the belief that we have been transferred and we are a person of great value and capable of doing great things. Please let me know how I can further assist you as you begin this journey of recovery and your desire to understand the value and power of positive self-talk in recovery.
Episode #30 – Monday The Fix: Recovery Paradigm part 2
Recovery Guy Podcast
“The Fix”
airing every Monday
Recovery Paradigms
Welcome to recovery guy podcast. This is an episode from “The Fix” that airs every Monday. Today’s episode is part two of two on recovery paradigms. In this episode, I picked up from where I left off last week. If you remember last week we looked at what is a recovery paradigm, a practical example of the recovery paradigm how paradigms affect us negatively and positively, the need to identify the erroneous paradigms.
We then transitioned into remove or displaying paradigms that are not consistent with our direction, commitment or overall environment. Once we get these things we were able then to discover new recovery paradigms, examine if they would be a good fit, adapting these new positive paradigms while making sure they keep us in alignment with our current or future commitments.
I believe when we do this we elevate our thinking which enhances our behavior. Our new behavior in turn validates this new paradigm or advanced paradigm. The program of recovery is more about the journey than it is about the destination. If we do not allow our thinking to evolve with a new positive approach or a more refined version of what we are currently doing, then we cannot move forward.
To keep an idea that would lack effectiveness doesn’t make sense and would keep me from accessing a higher-level recovery paradigm. The challenge people of recovery staying in the same place will eventually cause us to move backward. I find that very dangerous for a person of recovery, such as myself. Matter of fact, referring to last Thursday’s The Check Up podcast (recovery stagnation) staying in the same place can cause us to become emotionally, spiritually, and or physically stagnant. We won’t stay stagnant for long. We either get better or we get worse.
I hope you enjoy Part 2 of 2 on Recovery Paradigms. Please join us on Podbean, ITunes Podcast, Spotify, Stitcher and Google Play. We have fresh content every Monday and Thursday
Episode #29 – Special Q&A: Slow Will Part 2
Slow will part 2 Enjoy!
What Is Life Coaching?
Who is Coaching For?
It is my opinion that the one looking to be coached must be so convinced that their current situation is so injurious that if they don’t change their life would be irreparably harmed or they will die. Now that might seem drastic to some, but is it really? If you’re in a position where you would consider a coach, you would likely conclude that doing it by yourself with the methods that you’ve been trying are not effective and would be counterproductive to continue in that direction.
Life is meant to be enjoyed and cherished
There is nothing more discouraging than waking up each day dreading what the day holds. If that is you, when will you stop allowing the day to dictate that to you. Own the day from the outset and be the master of your own outcome.
We have been created to be a light to others
Stop allowing the external pressures to hold back your internal desire to grow and develop.
Create a legacy of happiness by living that legacy now.
Increase your value to others as you increase your value to you.
About Me
Recovery Guy was born out my own personal recovery. I had become a chronic alcoholic. I began choosing alcohol and drugs on a daily basis when I turned 18. I was so deeply trapped I also became a compulsive gambler, overeater, bulimic, and I was also addicted to pornography. I entered treatment in February 1986. After one brief relapse, I have been clean and sober since April 25, 1986. Along the way the overeating, bulimia, gambling and pornography have left my life. I have learned so much over the years. I went back to college at 39 years old to get my degree in Alcohol/Drugs Studies. I have worked in various treatment models. Along the way I became well. I went “From Broken To Whole.” It is my belief that everyone has this potential. I went from a feeling that if something didn’t change I was going to die to a person of accomplishment. I would love the opportunity to guide you as I was guided. I took advantage of the help offered to me. I have combined that information in proven ways to assist you. Thank you for your time.
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“I got to know Robert when we were looking for a speaker for an AA meeting. Since then I have relied on his elevated approach to seeing life, I have decided that I want to pursue and grow the way he has. I want to have his degree of recovery in my life. Robert has been a wonderful influence in my life”. Chaz M
Find Your Balance. Set Your Goals. Take A Challenge. Reward Yourself.
Understand that a life coach teaches you how to live productively one day at a time. We learn to overcome obstacles and other challenges that would have previously taken you off course and caused to slip back into previous behavior. A coach helps a person of addiction understand that true sobriety is more than the absence of the substance. Being sober is the beginning of sobriety, not sobriety itself. Whether it is overcoming a behavior that is not addiction related or behavior that is associated with alcohol or drugs the goal is the same. One must learn how to live a different way and because of enjoying that lifestyle the person would no longer want to engage in that negative behavior. It really is as simple as that. A coach is nothing more and nothing less than a conduit/guide for new way of living.