The Inescapable. There is an expression that reads “you can run, but you can’t hide.” Have you heard that before? It is often said the two inescapable things in life are death and taxes. Although, I see the humor in this there are more than death and taxes that we are inescapable. One of the things that come to mind his feelings. Over this past weekend we had a wonderful family gathering. My daughters Cathleen and Carol were part of that reunion. As many of you know, I have become very close with these daughters. What makes this so spectacular is that these are the two girls that I walked out on at the height of my addiction. One of the reasons that I believe in forgiveness and redemption to the degree that I do is how these daughters have embraced me in my recovery. One of the things that Carol and I were discussing was the notion that “One can never really run away from their feelings. They are always waiting for you at your next destination.” then last night Cathleen and I were discussing the problem with secrecy in one of my previous podcast.
Understanding that feelings are something embrace rather than escape is an essential element in recovery. Either we control the feelings or the feelings control us. If we are to go “From Broken to Whole”, this MUST be done.
Follow these steps as a starter
- Become sick and tired of being sick and tired
- Establish a relationship with God/Higher Power
- Find a trusted person who has empathy for you
- Begin expressing the feelings a little at a time
- Be selective with who share your feelings with
- Enjoy the emotional freedom because of releasing the pressure
- Become more courageous in sharing
- Cease to engage in the negative behavior that was caused by the secrecy
- Enjoy life like never before
Feelings are inescapable. We must deal with and process them so they don’t deal with and process us.
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Robert Pardon
Robert is the Recovery Guy. Getting clean and sober on April 25, 1986 has given me the insight and practical skill set to not only stay sober, but to also re-invent myself to the person I always wanted to become. Showing others how to do this is my life goal.
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