The Recovery Guy Blog
Robert shares varied concepts and approaches to understanding behavior that diverts us from our healthy desire to become well. We delve into social and medical aspects.
Why H.O.W. Now and not Later?
The reason so many of us put off starting later and not now is because of fear. In this particular blog the “HOW” stands for honesty, open- mindedness, and willingness. We find it near impossible to be any of these three things let alone being them simultaneously. If I am honest I have to admit that I have a problem. That goes 100% counter to protecting the supply because that supply is my medication of which I need to get through life.
Hall of Mirrors
While living in that hall of mirrors, I didn’t see myself clearly. I couldn’t view my assets or character flaws in a manner that could serve me. Instead, I was so busy looking at someone else’s character flaws that I couldn’t make an honest assessment of my role in the unmanageability of my own life. Step 4 says we “made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”
Dreams that Require Action
One of the other things that are so important to ascertain is whether or not it is morally right and fair to everyone. I also need to know if it is consistent with my other goals. That should be obvious. I want to also understand if I reach all the objectives of the dream will my life be improved.
Absolutes
Today, I embrace words such as never, must, always, and every.
Self Esteem
Mark twain said, “a man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” This quote is so important to understand. Self-esteem is the necessary component Two most all accomplishment. They desire that fuels a person to do the best job possible is foundational to success. How I feel about me will often determine the job that I do in the subsequent outcome. Going back to the quote by Mark Twain it is necessary that I approve of me.
Accountability
Through accountability from a wellness standpoint means that I am an open book to you. This does not mean that every relationship in our life is based on our accountability. Most of my relationships have superficial accountability that apply to one area or another. As the relationship becomes more meaningful and has a different impact on me in love or caring or sharing intimacy, accountability his defined much differently. I love the simplicity of the word accountable.
Making a Break with the Past
Stephen Covey taught me “that every major scientific breakthrough came as a result of a break with.” Based on these great men of wisdom and the things I learned in the plan of recovery it has become noticeably clear to me that I needed to cease doing what I was doing to become what I had desired to become.
When Surrender Means Freedom…
When I was able to become honest with myself, I realized I tended to let other people make a lot of decisions about my life without actually taking very much responsibility for my own choices. I found myself believing that I knew better what everyone else should do with their lives and feeling responsible for their choices; then feeling accountable for their consequences without taking care of what I could for my own life.
First Things First
What separates First Things First for me was that it was a book written by Stephen Covey. It was more than a cliché’. It was a philosophy. It was a blueprint for me to follow and a means for me to elevate my recovered life.