The Recovery Guy Blog

For me, the opposite of being a victim was ownership. Once I decided my pain was more than I could bear and no one was going to come to save me, my only option was personal ownership. The challenge was, how does someone who spent their life as a victim take ownership? The answer is very simple, yet it had alluded me for so long.

There’s nothing worse than being trapped and knowing you are trapped. What makes it even worse, is knowing that you are trapped and it is likely you will die a trapped person. That is addiction. Addiction is a trap and can appear inescapable.

When I first came to recovery I was told that I only had to change ONE thing. Not too bad, right. ONE thing. Who can’t change ONE thing? So, I asked what that ONE thing was and they told me that ONE thing was EVERYTHING!

When we’re in a better place, we can be a better wife, mother, husband, co-worker, or friend, and person at large. Depending upon what your personal access is will determine what you can do in pursuing self-care.

“…does changing my nurturing environment overcome the pre-disposition of nature. If nature is the dominant contributor at what point do I take responsibility for being or not being a particular way?”

Healthy relating leads to healthy relationships. Sharing who we are and knowing who others are can produce healthy relationships.

I heard an On Purpose podcast with Liza Koshy and it was entitled Becoming the Person You Should Have Been. Please listen. I think it will resonate with you. As a springboard, I thought I would share my thoughts regarding something in common to that amazing conversation between Jay and Liza.

I must understand that there were things outside of me personally, professionally, physically, spiritually and things involving the universe at large.