by Suzy | Jan 13, 2022 | Posts, Suzy Says
hose of us who find ourselves in the program of Al-Anon have often lived with either a distorted, self-righteous view of ourselves—that all the pain suffered was the result of someone else’s choices or behaviors, or the opposite—that some of us have an unwarranted sense of responsibility for our role in the difficulties and pain in our family. Neither is an entirely accurate view of reality. If we were honest with ourselves, even if we had the purest of intentions, sometimes our reactions to alcoholism hurt those in our lives.
by Suzy | Nov 18, 2021 | Posts, Suzy Says
If the word “humbly” makes you feel uncomfortable, like me, you were messaged to confuse humility with humiliation. If the word “asked” makes you feel uncomfortable, you were likely taught to do everything yourself, to depend on no one
by Suzy | Nov 4, 2021 | Posts, Suzy Says
Have you ever caught yourself aggressively replaying some conversation or interaction from the past? Or have you caught yourself rehearsing some future conversation or scenario in your head? Both of those things bring me to an awareness that I am not present. In Al-Anon, we call that obsessive thinking. Either ruminating about some previous event that I cannot change or obsessing about some future event that hasn’t even come to pass—neither of these is beneficial to me nor the relationships in my life.
by Suzy | May 19, 2021 | Posts
“We are only as sick as our secrets” is a quote attributed to AA. I promise its validity extends to all areas of wellness and recovery. The fifth step says, “Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.” This was the step that’s seemed impossible the first time I read it.
by Suzy | Apr 14, 2021 | Posts, Suzy Says
While living in that hall of mirrors, I didn’t see myself clearly. I couldn’t view my assets or character flaws in a manner that could serve me. Instead, I was so busy looking at someone else’s character flaws that I couldn’t make an honest assessment of my role in the unmanageability of my own life. Step 4 says we “made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”
