Where are you at in your Search for the Lost Chord? Are you like the happy wanderer that feels if you find it, you find it? Or are you like so many of us that if you don’t find it you will disappear into further darkness or death?
Before you and I came to recovery, it was not often or regular that we had reason to celebrate. Even when we did, it was usually short lived. After that, the reality of the direction our addiction was taking us brought us back to earth.
When we walk in this light and freedom we become convinced that going back is never an option.
When we accept our need to become well and want to incorporate the Steps to Change we will grow and become the best possible version of ourselves.
And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, or situation – some fact of my life – unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment
I am going to list some names of those who stand out as significant to me in my life.
“The only constant in life is change”
Happiness never was easy.
Essentially, toxic shame is what happens when feeling badly about aspects or the totality of we are is as if it were stamped into our DNA. This is one of the reasons there is no quick fix, we will likely require the help of someone else and we may not accomplish complete removal in our lifetime. Having said that, there is hope for us. We must first identify Toxic Shame as a block wall in our life. If we don’t go around it or find a way through it, we will spend our lifetime pounding our head against it.
When we do these things, we stand a very good chance the delusion will stay SMASHED. If the psychotic notion of being successful with our negative behavior stays crushed, we will be able to live the life that the addictive lifestyle kept us from.
How vital is relating in recovery? It has been the experience of countless others and myself that our quality and even quantity of our recovery stands in the balance of how and to whom we relate in recovery.
When it comes to being Wounded No More, I am not saying that we will never be wounded again. That would like saying we cease being human. What I am saying that the wounded feeling does not have to last.