Robert is the Recovery Guy. Getting clean and sober on April 25, 1986 has given me the insight and practical skill set to not only stay sober, but to also re-invent myself to the person I always wanted to become. Showing others how to do this is my life goal.
When we do these things, we stand a very good chance the delusion will stay SMASHED. If the psychotic notion of being successful with our negative behavior stays crushed, we will be able to live the life that the addictive lifestyle kept us from.
How vital is relating in recovery? It has been the experience of countless others and myself that our quality and even quantity of our recovery stands in the balance of how and to whom we relate in recovery.
Denial is a characteristic distortion in thinking experienced by people with alcoholism. For decades, people who treat alcoholics, and recovering alcoholics themselves, have puzzled over why alcoholics continue to drink when the link between alcohol and the losses they suffer is so clear. Denial is an integral part of the disease of alcoholism and a major obstacle to recovery.
As vital as meditation is, it is not, unfortunately, involutary. There is no involutary characterist to it. There is no fire alarm – spiritaul or otherwise – that automatically kicks in when we need it. Meditation only occurs when I decide to meditate. In a way, I wish I was forced to meditate. If I were then I could have averted countless bad decisions and many negative outcomes.
When it comes to being Wounded No More, I am not saying that we will never be wounded again. That would like saying we cease being human. What I am saying that the wounded feeling does not have to last.
Staying healthy is best promoted by continuing to self-examine. We make adjustments and corrections along the way… (but) If this continues unchecked the likelihood of relapse is inevitable.
When I consider personal alignment, I must consider the four dimensions of my life. As a person, I am made up of physical, emotional, mental and the spiritual. As I have four tires on my vehicle I have four areas of life that need attention. Not having all four tires aligned simultaneously causes uneven wear are on the other tires.
Trust is a foundational requirement for every healthy relationship. Without trust, there is no basis for caring. It is near impossible to have reciprocal care for a person where trust isn’t an essential part of the relationship. The quote “This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man” is a line from Hamlet by William Shakespeare and it connects self-truth as a necessary component of being truthful to others.
These feelings serve as important clues about our wellbeing and about what makes us happy and unhappy.
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Quite simply, a trigger is a person, place, thought or event that can set into motion a response. You have heard the tried and true phrase “if it were easy everyone would be doing it.” The same thing is true when applied to today’s blog.
There are so many factors… Not only are the variables different with an addiction or negative behavior, but is also associated with what triggers it. We must learn a positive response that we would want to apply that recovery solution to need to recover.