Robert is the Recovery Guy. Getting clean and sober on April 25, 1986 has given me the insight and practical skill set to not only stay sober, but to also re-invent myself to the person I always wanted to become. Showing others how to do this is my life goal.
Once we have addressed and overcome the depression we should continue to use the tools that got us to our new healthy position. We should safeguard ourselves from returning to that negative mindset by self-monitoring.
When we accept our need to become well and want to incorporate the Steps to Change we will grow and become the best possible version of ourselves.
And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, or situation – some fact of my life – unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment
We must learn to become grateful or our chance of true long-lasting sobriety will likely not come to us. We need simply to learn to be grateful for the little things and move toward more significant things. As we grow in our recovery then we can begin to appreciate the bigger things as they come to us.
It is often not known if using brought about the cognitive condition or if it was a result of the drinking/using. One thing is for sure – if a person is to experience life-long recovery and increasing wellness they must introduce mechanisms that will promote change.
I am going to list some names of those who stand out as significant to me in my life.
“The only constant in life is change”
The 3 things we all must do are Ask, Believe and Receive. We may want to do more as we find a greater path, but these 3 things are foundational to the Law of Attraction.
Happiness never was easy.
Essentially, toxic shame is what happens when feeling badly about aspects or the totality of we are is as if it were stamped into our DNA. This is one of the reasons there is no quick fix, we will likely require the help of someone else and we may not accomplish complete removal in our lifetime. Having said that, there is hope for us. We must first identify Toxic Shame as a block wall in our life. If we don’t go around it or find a way through it, we will spend our lifetime pounding our head against it.
Setting boundaries takes courage, practice, and support. And remember that it’s a skill you can master.
We must have (boundries) to keep from negative people, places and things as well. Setting boundaries is only the beginning. Once we have them set we know must guard them.