Robert is the Recovery Guy. Getting clean and sober on April 25, 1986 has given me the insight and practical skill set to not only stay sober, but to also re-invent myself to the person I always wanted to become. Showing others how to do this is my life goal.
It is often not known if using brought about the cognitive condition or if it was a result of the drinking/using. One thing is for sure – if a person is to experience life-long recovery and increasing wellness they must introduce mechanisms that will promote change.
I am going to list some names of those who stand out as significant to me in my life.
“The only constant in life is change”
The 3 things we all must do are Ask, Believe and Receive. We may want to do more as we find a greater path, but these 3 things are foundational to the Law of Attraction.
Happiness never was easy.
Essentially, toxic shame is what happens when feeling badly about aspects or the totality of we are is as if it were stamped into our DNA. This is one of the reasons there is no quick fix, we will likely require the help of someone else and we may not accomplish complete removal in our lifetime. Having said that, there is hope for us. We must first identify Toxic Shame as a block wall in our life. If we don’t go around it or find a way through it, we will spend our lifetime pounding our head against it.
Setting boundaries takes courage, practice, and support. And remember that it’s a skill you can master.
We must have (boundries) to keep from negative people, places and things as well. Setting boundaries is only the beginning. Once we have them set we know must guard them.
When we do these things, we stand a very good chance the delusion will stay SMASHED. If the psychotic notion of being successful with our negative behavior stays crushed, we will be able to live the life that the addictive lifestyle kept us from.
How vital is relating in recovery? It has been the experience of countless others and myself that our quality and even quantity of our recovery stands in the balance of how and to whom we relate in recovery.
Denial is a characteristic distortion in thinking experienced by people with alcoholism. For decades, people who treat alcoholics, and recovering alcoholics themselves, have puzzled over why alcoholics continue to drink when the link between alcohol and the losses they suffer is so clear. Denial is an integral part of the disease of alcoholism and a major obstacle to recovery.
As vital as meditation is, it is not, unfortunately, involutary. There is no involutary characterist to it. There is no fire alarm – spiritaul or otherwise – that automatically kicks in when we need it. Meditation only occurs when I decide to meditate. In a way, I wish I was forced to meditate. If I were then I could have averted countless bad decisions and many negative outcomes.