Robert is the Recovery Guy. Getting clean and sober on April 25, 1986 has given me the insight and practical skill set to not only stay sober, but to also re-invent myself to the person I always wanted to become. Showing others how to do this is my life goal.
For me, the opposite of being a victim was ownership. Once I decided my pain was more than I could bear and no one was going to come to save me, my only option was personal ownership. The challenge was, how does someone who spent their life as a victim take ownership? The answer is very simple, yet it had alluded me for so long.
There’s nothing worse than being trapped and knowing you are trapped. What makes it even worse, is knowing that you are trapped and it is likely you will die a trapped person. That is addiction. Addiction is a trap and can appear inescapable.
Whether they be natural or self-induced, stressors can be like trying to body surf in a riptide. If we don’t get out, we could drown.
When I was introduced to these points, it was in personal development. I will list a few of the points that I think are relevant to the quality that I find necessary to incorporate into our lives. We can then improve the areas that we are looking to improve.
When I first came to recovery I was told that I only had to change ONE thing. Not too bad, right. ONE thing. Who can’t change ONE thing? So, I asked what that ONE thing was and they told me that ONE thing was EVERYTHING!
“I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.”
We can define our progress by the milestones of life.
When we’re in a better place, we can be a better wife, mother, husband, co-worker, or friend, and person at large. Depending upon what your personal access is will determine what you can do in pursuing self-care.
“…does changing my nurturing environment overcome the pre-disposition of nature. If nature is the dominant contributor at what point do I take responsibility for being or not being a particular way?”
Often, building blocks or simple yet, when combined properly can create something more complex. Just like protein, our recovery and new way of living require building blocks.
Even though it is not realistic of not reaching perfection, shouldn’t be my reason for not striving toward that ideal. I have previously stated, that the higher I realistically raise the bar the more I will accomplish.
Healthy relating leads to healthy relationships. Sharing who we are and knowing who others are can produce healthy relationships.