Posts by Robert

Robert is the Recovery Guy. Getting clean and sober on April 25, 1986 has given me the insight and practical skill set to not only stay sober, but to also re-invent myself to the person I always wanted to become. Showing others how to do this is my life goal.

Guilt

Guilt

The biggest challenge with guilt in recovery is that we hold onto it far too long. We often use guilt as a two by four to beat ourselves over the head with when we are looking for a reason to feel badly.

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Relapse is a Process Not an Event

Relapse is a Process Not an Event

The relapse process occurs in a series of steps and in the direction of a return to addictive or other self-destructive behavior. Along the way, there are opportunities to use new ways of thinking and acting to reverse the process, but we don’t implement them.

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Addictive Disorders

Addictive Disorders

I was in such a state of rebellious denial that I was far from admitting I had a problem and certainly not a problem as so seriously diagnosed. The fact that my depression or my addiction or the combination of the two did not kill me still baffles me to this day.

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Episode #173 – Tuesday The Fix: Step Five – Letting Go

Episode #173 – Tuesday The Fix: Step Five – Letting Go

Granting someone entrance into my life was so refreshing. Step 5 is the first step that directly involves another person. This is so important because I am becoming more accountable in a tangible sense. My active addiction was brought on and deepened by my lack of accountability. The first four steps do not require accountability the way step five does.

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